Aquarius male says he wants relatioship, but next night starts fight and breaks up..wth?

So he and her fight a lot. Always over stupid things. He is very selfish, wants dinner cooked , a hand or back mage,etc. But he doesn't want to give, or make her feel needed. When she tries to walk away he comes to find her (after not seeing her for 2 days) and,professes his love. "Don't leave! I'm sorry I was. Selfish notthinking, etc." But soon as things smooth out, he starts arguements all over again. Even putting her out of his house at 3am! Because he says he can't sleep with her tossing n turning! What is going on here? I think he feels taken advantage of when they get back together. Like coned or whipped into submissen...help?