Are these signs of a controlling boyfriend?

Sounds like my husband, almost to a "t". If your gut feelings say "get out while you can" then do it! I heard that voice while we were dating, ignored it, and 8 years later he is still mentally abusive. Look at how he was raised - he is VERY likely to treat you the same way his dad treated his mom. Find someone who deserves you! Most importantly, find someone who will be a good father to your child someday!